It is never your fault if your nude pictures are released without your permission. You are not at fault. You have been the victim of a heinous crime, and there is no point in going over all the ways you should or could have avoided it - the problem is entire with the individual who chose to violate your trust.
It's important to emphasizing, though, that sexting may go wrong in ways other than via abuse of permission and trust. Phones are susceptible to being hacked or nicked. Photographs may be inadvertently distributed to the incorrect recipients.
Fortunately, there are measures we can do to make sharing naked pictures safer and to mitigate the damage if photos do get into the wrong virtual hands.
We sought guidance from Mia Sabat, a sex therapist at Enjoy.
If you're using an app that allows pictures to be readily taken, stored, and shared without your awareness, emailing sexual things is not the greatest choice.
The same is true for applications that store communications transmitted to the cloud automatically, as well as for systems that are readily and often hacked.
‘When sharing intimate pictures, choose a secure platform to ensure that you retain control over who sees them, as well as where and when they may be enjoyed,' Mia advises. 'We advise against utilizing systems that allow for the storage of photographs since you have little control over where these images may wind up.
'Instead, utilize services like Snapchat, which allows for timed messaging and notifies senders whenever a screenshot or picture is stored, so you can keep an eye on your photos while still having fun.
‘If you prefer a more conventional approach and are okay with your picture being retained, you may create a new email account using a secure platform, such as ProtonMail, that is completely encrypted to safeguard your data and personal information.
‘If you want to take it a step further, establish a new account with a different name so that your pictures cannot be linked back to you if they are leaked. When in doubt, trust your instincts and do what makes you feel safe and secure.'
It's never a bad idea to keep your face out of naked photos, whether you just have a below-the-chin rule for postures, cleverly conceal your face with a prop, or crop before sharing.
This helps you preserve your privacy and may also make you feel more comfortable. There's no need to fret about whether to grin or sulk if your head isn't in the frame.
'If you have tattoos, unique birthmarks, scars, or other physical indicators that may readily be used to identify you, it's more difficult – but not impossible – to conceal your identity,' adds Mia.
‘Experiment with seductive draping of scarves, clothes, lingerie, or even sex toys to conceal or conceal particular markings.
'This will assist you in maintaining your anonymity while also increasing the heat and leaving your companion wanting for more.'
People say, 'Location services function similarly to a fingerprint on a phone.
‘If your location services are enabled, each picture you take will be encrypted with your location data, which may be tracked back to your IP address.
‘Disable location services for an added layer of protection, so you may share pictures with confidence that you've covered your bases and kept your info out of the picture.'
Believe us when we say that you do not want private pictures to be automatically uploaded to your iCloud account... This is particularly important if you share tablets or computers with friends and family, but it is also necessary for the event of a cyberattack.
'If you have an iPhone and utilize the cloud, any photo you take will be immediately uploaded to your iCloud account,' Mia explains. ‘We suggest manually disabling these automated uploads to safeguard your accounts.
‘This way, if any of your iCloud-connected accounts are compromised, your nudes will remain secure.'
If you've ever had the fear of flashing a buddy a picture on your phone and having them browse through your roll, it's time to upgrade your sexting storage.
Mia advises: 'If you want to keep your nudity all in one place, consider saving your photos in safe applications such as Photo Vault or Snapchat's My Eyes Only area, which allow you to save and protect particular images inside the app while removing them from your camera roll.
‘If you want to save your pictures apart from your phone, consider purchasing an external hard drive. These external devices operate independently of any digital accounts (such as iCloud or GoogleDrive) and save just the pictures you submit to them.
'Because they are not connected to the internet, you may keep all your sensitive pictures without worrying about the device being hacked or the images being exposed. Whichever method you choose to save your pictures, you can be certain that you may browse ahead of others without worry of a racy image appearing suddenly.'